“Ty të marr për veshi me polici ndërsa mamin e fusin në burg”/ Babai kërkon vajzën me forcë

2023-10-04 21:11:00, Denoncim CNA

“Ty të marr për veshi me polici ndërsa mamin e fusin

Një grua nga Tirana, tregoi në emisionin “Stop” se ka kërkuar urdhër mbrojtjeje për vajzën 9-vjeçare, ardhur në jetë nga një bashkëjetesë 2-vjeçare me ish-partnerin e saj.

"I was refused a protection order by the judge of the first instance of Tirana, Fahrije Budo Stringa. I requested the protection order for my child, 9 years old. This child is born out of cohabitation. I lived with the girl's father for about 2 years. During these two years we have had a generally problematic relationship except for the first period until it was known that it is the pregnancy. With the birth of the girl, the situation worsened. In addition to insults and verbal insults, he went on to a terrible psychological and to some extent physical violence. I did not report it to the police during that period", said the informant.

But the lady says she separated from the girl's father because he was violent. The court awarded custody to the mother and the father was to visit her part-time.

"I moved to my parents' house, there started other problems with the girl's father that led me to report. After the expiration of the protection order, the gentleman started again the violence, the pressure, you don't know how to educate the child. At a distance, with the excuse that I am not allowed to approach for the protection order. But the driver was present all the time. The driver was the person taking the girl to enforce the protection order. The driver brought the girl home on the day and at the appointed time ," said the whistleblower.

"The court left me with the growth and good education of the girl, but for essential decisions such as schooling, health or any other issue related to the child, it would be a joint decision.

Two Wednesday afternoons and two weekends with 24-hour sleep. This "ritual" continued for a year. The gentleman asked for a change of dates with the girl as the child was growing up and according to the laws he cited the child should have more time available for the father because the figure of the father is very important", she added further .

With the growth of the child, the meetings increased, but also the girl's refusals to go to her father.

"But the child throughout the time has shown signs that indicated the opposite, signs that have been confirmed with the school psychologist and the teachers she had at school, the reactions she had while returning from her father's or the day she had to went to his father. Aggressiveness, lack of concentration in learning, unkindness towards other children, isolation, crying all the time. Since she was relatively young, 3-4 years old, it was not clear why she had this problem," said the whistleblower.

But the father objected to this refusal, saying that "he would take it to the police".

"With the request she made for changing the meetings with the child because the child was older and the father had created a new family, the daughter needed more time available with the father's new family to establish the relationship and relationship, the court decided to add the days of the meeting with the father. As the days set by the court increased, the girl began to have a much stronger, much more fierce refusal to go to her father. The girl explained that the situation at home was very tense, the relationship there was very tense. He says all the time that they have arguments, they have fights. He drinks a lot. It is most of the time drunk by the time the girl is there. In most of the meetings, Monday, Friday, the girl does not meet the father at all because the driver takes her to me, the driver brings him to me and the child stays there with the father's wife and the other daughter. The most recent case is now in July of this year when the girl refused to go with her father on a summer vacation as ordered by the court. The girl refused while the father did not accept the girl's refusal. He started threatening her. I will listen to you with the police and you must follow the court's decision because you are a child".said the whistleblower.

Conversation between father and daughter:

Father: OK?

Girl: I don't want to come!

Father: Don't make me come and pick you up from rags with the Police there!

Girl: No, you can't take me!

Father: Don't annoy me! Once again, don't get on my nerves at all! I came with the Police, I took you by the ear there!

Girl: You can't take me!

Father: And get ready and don't delay! I'll come and get it right now!

Girl: No!

Father: And don't prolong the conversation! Get ready! Once again, don't tell me no, because I will come with the Police and I will take it by the ear! Agreed?

Girl: No!

Father: The 15 days you will spend with your father, you will spend points with your father! It's not here, what's your fun, and don't prolong the conversation! Get ready, I'm coming, I'll take it there! Come!

Girl: No!

Before the police arrive, the father mentions the court decision to the child.

Girl: I don't want to come!

Father: I heard that you will not come! Well, what about dad, what did you have to worry about? Why are you sad?

Girl: I don't want to come!

Father: Good, I heard that you will not come, but why are you upset with father?

Girl: I don't feel like coming!

Father: Hey, I heard that you don't like coming with dad, why are you upset with dad? Do you have a problem with daddy I ask?

Girl: You're not, because you're spending so much time with me, because you're at work all the time!

Father: Yes, I found out that I am not spending much time with you! I'm here at home and I'm waiting for you!

Girl: No, no, I don't want to be alone today! I want all the days, I don't want just today!

Father: Well, do you want to stay only with me when you come here?

Girl: Yes!

Dad: Dad, whenever you come, dad will stay here with you whenever you come!

Girl: I know, it's too late now!

Father: What do you mean, late?

Girl: I don't want to come!

Father: Why?

Girl: Because…

Father: What does this mean?

Girl: You don't stay with me!

Father: You are a reed!

Girl: No, no, I'm not a reed! It's not me, I'm grown now!

Father: Can I explain something, father? That you will come to see your father, you will come to see him, because this decision has been taken by the court!

Girl: I don't want to!

Father: And the police come to take you and your mother, to deceive and manipulate you, and even put your mother in prison! Listen to what dad says, you do well to implement that court decision!

Girl: I don't want to come! It's over!

Father: How?

Girl: I don't want to come and that's it! /tvclan