Behavior, learned and imposed consequences/ What parents should know about child education

2023-09-23 08:57:00, Sociale CNA

Behavior, learned and imposed consequences/ What parents should know about child

Education is that process of recognition and learning, which the child realizes by himself through the models that the environment offers him. Communication between adults and the constant behavior of adults with the child, regardless of the situation or emotional burdens, are the basis on which education is built.

The rest is all the child's work. Education is not accomplished by orders and commands from adults.

Education is that process that starts at the beginning of life when a person comes into this world and begins to explore himself and the human being. He is so small, helpless, but with condensed energies, he works without rest, to become independent and to learn the word.

The child stares at the adult's mouth and looks at his facial expressions, movements and gestures. He moves endlessly, the muscles of the face, tongue, neck, legs, hands, just like the adult, who walks, who talks, who moves. So far everything is in the hand of the child, as adults think that he does not understand anything, at least in our country.

When he starts putting his hands in his mouth, the adults try to stop him, not realizing that that action is a link in the long process of recognition.

Then, when he begins to walk, for fear of falling, he is prevented from fully experimenting with this process. The process of growth offers both sides, pleasure and fear. The child learns and enjoys the pleasure of moving on his own, but even the fall that scares him can turn into a healthy experience, if adults will control their anxiety and impatience.

They should be constantly encouraging in a quiet voice and choosing the words. Commands according to the emotional load of adults are not supportive, on the contrary, they hinder education and add to the child's confusion.

Education is that form of learning, which is rooted in the unconscious and enables action to be taken without having to think, for example polite words, the way of eating, the tonality of the voice, the way of behaving in environments outside the family or with unknown persons .

In our practice, adult-child communication ethics is lacking. It develops more on the basis of fear, labeling and threats than through the respect, patience and responsibility of adults. Behavior is a consequence, learned and imposed by the adult.

The child behaves as adults behave with each other or as adults address him, the child, when they are tense or impatient. In the way of our education, we find the error in the child. The adult does not realize that the word of the adult is heavy for the fragile language ability of the child. He, the child, will want to act as the adult asks, but he does not know the right moment, when he should use what the adult asks.

The adult does not act based on the ethics he claims from the child. He, the adult, uses more exclamations like: ej, na, o ti, ore, etc., so the model is without "magic" words.