Harvard-trained psychologist: If you use these phrases, your relationship will be more successful

2023-10-14 22:02:00, Lifestyle CNA

Harvard-trained psychologist: If you use these phrases, your relationship will

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Every relationship has its rough spots. But what really matters is how you and your partner interact on a regular basis.

As a Harvard-trained psychologist, I've found that the happiest couples don't avoid conflict—they manage it by talking to each other with appreciation and respect. Unfortunately, I've seen many marriages end because of poor communication and a lack of will to change, writes CNBC.

So if you use any of these phrases with your partner, your relationship is more successful than most:

1. I appreciate your effort

It's tempting to focus too much on the things you don't like about your partner and point them out every chance you get. But it is important to highlight the good in their actions.

2. I like you

The healthiest couples not only love each other, they like each other.

Loving someone is a strong feeling of love; consent is seeing them as they are and accepting their attributes.

3. Help me understand this better

We all have different upbringings, weaknesses, values ??and beliefs that shape how we think relationships should work.

If your partner reacts to a situation in a way that you don't understand, telling them that you want to get to know them better is key to resolving the conflict and connecting on a deeper level.

4. I'm listening...

Disagreements are inevitable, but it's important to support each other through active listening.

5. I'm sorry

When things don't go right or as planned, healthy couples know that both partners play a role in the situation.

Taking responsibility for our role in those conflicts—and sincerely apologizing—is essential to repairing rifts.

6. Let's have some fun

If you can humor (or tease each other) during tense moments, your relationship may be stronger than you think.

The happiest couples are able to break the tension and recalibrate the mood.

7. I love you

This is simple, but always worth remembering. Verbally expressing your romantic love for each other keeps the relationship alive. And when you say it, make sure you really mean it./ CNA